When You’re More You

Sketch of Lorraine putting the spotlight on what being herself feels likeA question caught me off-guard a couple weeks back.

How do you know when you’re living from Self, that you’re on the right path?

Shortly afterwards arrived a request to expand on what being a little more me looks like.

Then living from Self came up again.


The answer is akin to describing what blue feels like.

How do you put into words something that is larger than what words can express adequately?


Part of the problem is when you’re not being yourself, you know how not good that feels.

It’s hard to imagine something else.

The words can be just that – words.

Imagining what you feel like when “not this” is gone can be a stretch.


On the other side is remembering what being yourself feels like.

Because you forget.

There comes a time when being yourself becomes so normal you don’t notice anymore.


Sort of like driving a car.

Being you becomes so automatic that you don’t pay attention anymore.

Until you start veering away from being you, or current conditions require you to be extra diligent in paying attention.


What you notice most is when you’re not you.

Whether a little or a lot.


So the questions were an interesting call to bring attention to what being your true self feels like.

Here’s what I’d inadequately say:

There a sense of rightness, an Isness.

The little ball in the puzzle comes to a rest.

You check inside yourself first rather than look outside yourself for clues.

You’re connected to a centredness and you become a point of balance like a fulcrum.

Reactions change.

There’s an inner peace even when all chaos breaks out. Because chaos doesn’t stop.

You have more energy and can sense that it sources from within.

You have more energy simply from not having to juggle different roles.

There is only the one you.

Shoulds don’t drive you crazy.

What you put up with is selective.

What you want to be involved with may increase.

Being busier than ever is not uncommon, but how you are busy changes.

There’s still an ease and flow at the centre of it all.

At the centre of you.

Control changes. Becomes awkward almost. More difficult. Out of alignment.

Doing for the sake of being busy becomes less attractive.

Doing because that’s who you are feels right.

Challenges aren’t personal, they’re opportunities to know more about yourself.

You want to learn more about yourself. Grow. Change.

Your path feels more like a spiral than a squiggle.

The sense of heightened awareness or joy is replaced with a quiet deepening, broadening and knowing.

Much like lust turning to love.

What feels like a risk that turns into “why didn’t I do this sooner?”

Because that sense of rightness, of Isness is undeniable.


The words still don’t feel adequate.

I’m curious, what words do you use to describe those times when you feel most like you?


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Lorraine Watson - on rustic porch

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Crazy for cats and potatoes, Lorraine's insatiable curiosity of Life leads her to question, explore and push beyond the box. A self-professed "left-brained creative big picture" type, she has an intuitive knack for seeing beyond and beneath first appearances while at the same time nerding out on the details. Most of all she sees and holds others in their highest until they can see it for themselves.


  1. Dawn Hanson on April 20, 2018 at 4:45 am

    When there is no fear.

    • Lorraine on April 20, 2018 at 6:11 pm

      Oh, so very true Dawn.

      I recall times of feeling nervous and anxious taking the next step, but it wasn’t fear based. More like sourced from excitement and anticipation.

  2. Carmen on April 27, 2018 at 2:25 pm

    I love this blog post. Thank you Lorraine.
    I feel all the above, plus when it doesn’t quite align with my mind’s dreamy ideal. When the answer is perhaps something I’m trying not to see. Like when to end a relationship or when to say what I need even if it may cause waves. But also when there’s an excited inner vibration happening that literally makes me shiver for a few minutes. I veer off so many times in order to try to belong.. less so now than before. But it creeps in. Thanks for the thought-provoking awareness reminder.

    • Lorraine on April 30, 2018 at 10:45 am

      Inner vibration – that’s a great one Carmen. And a very literal expression of resonance that’s hard to miss.

      I think recognizing out of alignment is important as well because it provides opportunities for knowing ourselves more deeply and creates openings for course corrections. It’s also a sign that living in alignment is the norm, not the exception. That is something to celebrate!

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