Stop Looking For Answers

I’m positive mustard bottles are in collusion with pickle jars.

They both seem to find new ways to sneak around the fridge and remain hidden behind yogurt tubs or the latest bowl of leftovers.

The dust rag snickering in plain view is no better as I walk past a dozen time on my hunt to remember where last I left it.

Reorganized cupboards and drawers look beautiful while causing endless moments of frustration reaching for something that’s not there anymore.


Setting off to find what we’re looking for comes with the added weight of expectations.

We predetermine, with only the knowledge we have, how something must be.

And the mind takes its job seriously.


When we expect things to be a certain way – however vague or specific – the mind goes about finding a match.

Yes or no. In or out.

We become blind to or dismiss what’s actually appearing.


Then there’s the goose chase undertaken by assuming our answers are somewhere out there.

If we’re lucky that is.

Because another unspoken fear of searching is finding there might be no answer at all.


Off we go anyway. Pieces must be missing if not easily seen in front of us.

We conveniently forget there is a whole world right under our nose.

Playfully hidden mind you, but ready to be seen when we are ready to see.


Discover New Worlds

Enter discovery.

A total shift in the way to see the world. And ourselves.


We become the curious explorer at heart.

We move from expecting what end to reach into focusing on revealing what there is to see.

You can’t dis cover what isn’t there after all.


The mindset of discovery is one of openness, attention and awareness for what is happening now and asking questions to decide where to step next.

What once was the big, scary Unknown turns into an unfolding bigger picture we approach with excitement to fill in the parts.

Patterns, signs and out of the blue are all pieces put together in understanding more deeply the world and who we are.

From that perspective, believing we can find reach a final destination sounds somewhat presumptuous, if not futile.


Ignited by what could be just around the corner, discovery propels us magically to where we never thought possible.

Jump into the mystery and be amazed by what you find.



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Lorraine Watson - on rustic porch

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Crazy for cats and potatoes, Lorraine's insatiable curiosity of Life leads her to question, explore and push beyond the box. A self-professed "left-brained creative big picture" type, she has an intuitive knack for seeing beyond and beneath first appearances while at the same time nerding out on the details. Most of all she sees and holds others in their highest until they can see it for themselves.


  1. Caroline Kirk on December 1, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    I really liked this post.. so true, we do become blind by what is there, due to our limited perceptions .. and ad for answers on the outside, I think, I hope, I will know to now go internally or learn to accept what is, is.. thank you for the lovely reminder to be in a state of discovery : )

    • Lorraine on December 18, 2013 at 5:13 pm

      The upside is we’re not set in stone and have a lifetime of change and discovery ahead of us when we choose to step in. A little breather here and there is nice, but there’s always more down the road waiting for us. Calling us!

  2. Renee on December 3, 2013 at 10:30 am

    Love this — being blind to the present robs us of learning that things are all about perceptions each individual have. Bravo!

  3. Shan on December 4, 2013 at 7:24 pm

    Time and again I find when I have a concrete set of expectations it sets me up for some kind of disappointment or failure. Being open to discovery and “sitting in the unknown” as my coach puts it, is an amazing blessing that gives so much more pleasure. I need to do it more. As Caroline said, thank you for the wonderful reminder.

  4. Follow Your Light on December 14, 2013 at 11:24 am

    Lorraine said:

    The urge to make the unknown known is a pretty powerful force, isn’t it. I’ve found “sitting in the unknown” becomes quite exciting when I see it as playground rather than a field of buried landmines. I shift from fear of the unknown into the curiosity for the unknown.

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  5. Follow Your Light on December 14, 2013 at 11:44 am

    Jenny said:

    Great post, Lorraine!

    I love your colluding condiments and snickering dust cloths! You so beautifully describe the process of letting go and allowing for curiosity to lead us. The picture of the kitten captures that energy so deliciously – I think of the times I’ve watched cats go fearlessly into some pretty hilarious and what would be for a human, frightening discoveries – and emerge more or less unscathed.

    Thanks for the food for thought!

    Big Love!

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    • Lorraine on December 18, 2013 at 5:11 pm

      Kittens do have a delicious energy! We can learn so much from following their example of testing unknown waters and knowing they’ll come out okay in the end … albeit a little dustier sometimes.

  6. Elzbieta Pettingill on January 14, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    Lorraine, beautifully written! This is such important reminder to us all. Life becomes so much more thrilling when we push away our expectations and judgment, and instead we engage ourselves in simply observing everything. I’ve learned that this is the fastest and the most effective way to dissipate boredom…. Thank you for the post. 🙂

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