Listening Is A Process

Inevitably the topic of Listening to intuition and inner guidance comes up at some point on the journey of self-dis covery.

The conversations, however, are directed more towards why you can’t hear anything despite wanting answers too badly and Listening so hard.


Admittedly, Listening, and more so knowing things have come more naturally for me.

Like some people are naturally comfortable at math or drawing or speaking in front of large crowds.

But even with what you might call a head start, I’ve had to work through my share of garbled whispers and blank minds too.


In making my way through these times of confusion and frustration, I’ve noticed what helps me to get back on track again to Listen with greater clarity.

These 15 tips pulled together over the years are my go-to tools for opening up to hearing clearly again.


Listening Is A Process


15 Tips For Listening To Inner Guidance


Create More Space


1. Do The Hokey Pokey

At certain times you  may notice your body feeling full or thick. Stress, confusion, doubt, fear and even prolonged periods of heavy duty brain work at your desk can all be causes for energy to build up and stop flowing. Listening becomes all the more difficult with that extra energy matter to hear through. Get moving to get flowing again.  Dance on the spot, take a brisk walk, swing your arms in the air, or try jumping jacks. You’ll feel the difference as soon as the energy begins to clear.

2. Blather Out Loud

Thoughts stuck inside collect more thoughts and form a jumbled mess of chaos that becomes difficult to sort out. You can all too easily go around in circles and end up nowhere. Talking out loud frees your thoughts from the confines of your head. This is not about creating well organized, meaningful ideas. Set your intention to do a brain dump and get everything out. All out. As you hear yourself you’ll start to recognize the key points you were trying to find. If you’re not comfortable muttering away to yourself then talk to your cat, or a plant or a friend who will simply listen.

3. Write Away

Take journaling to the next level with autonomic writing as another way to move thoughts out of your head. While journaling tends to be more of a brain dump and remains somewhat head based, autonomic writing is letting the pen take control while you hold the pen allowing whatever wants to be written. Grammar and punctuation need not be present. No sense or structure required. Just follow the pen. Write whatever comes to mind. Be skeptical. Write those thoughts down. Keep writing whatever comes to mind and allow your pen to lead the dance.

4. Hurt Your Brain

Find yourself stuck or retracing similar patterns? Hurt your brain. Give your mind something to really stretch on, something not fathomable or solvable. This creates breaks in your current thinking and opens up room for other thoughts to move again. Favourites of mine are contemplating what a black hole would feel like, seeing a star disappear in the night sky and how long ago it really happened, or how the sun, earth and moon are positioned to light the moon on a given night.


Find diversions


5. Busy Hands, Occupied Mind

When your mind has a job to do it can’t be meddling in other affairs like Listening. The mind’s focus is shifted away from finding something to latch onto because it’s already occupied. Activities like highway driving, cooking, painting a wall, gardening and giving cat belly rubs all require the brain to be active yet not taxed. The key is to have enough familiarity and comfort in the task to allow the brain autopilot control while you open to other streams of thought.

6. Shift Focus

There’s only so many times you can rush head first into a brick wall without getting a headache – or worse. When you don’t seem to be making headway or hearing answers, step back, take a breath and observe what other avenues are available. A hole in the wall might be two feet over or see an opportunity to look from above, sideways or below.

7. Ask Different Questions

Questions are one of the most powerful tools at your disposal, not only for flexing your discovery muscles, but for tapping into inner wisdom as well. Never stop asking questions. When answers don’t come, change your questions or how you’re asking them. Shy away from why and how questions. They engage the logical mind in a search for reason, knowledge and skill and keep the mind focused in a specific direction.

8. Stop Listening

Sometimes the easiest way to Listen is to stop trying so hard. Go about your business and forget hearing anything. In the relaxing you release the pressure to create openings.


Be a new you


9. Forget Time and Space

We’ve come to associate fast with best, making slow or absent quite frustrating. And what does appear frequently seems far off on tangents or completely out of sequence. Answers and insights are more like cats and kids – they come on their own schedule without bothering to check yours. Order is irrelevant. The further you step back to see a bigger slice of time all at once, the more you can see how the pieces fit together and their order of arrival actually makes sense.

10. Expect The Unexpected

Expectation is focus in disguise. Anticipating something to look a particular way slips on a pair of blinkers cutting off your peripheral vision. Even what’s directly in front of you is blocked from view as you look for something in particular. There’s no doubt you’ll be able to spot what you’re looking for when it arrives, although at the expense of what actually appears. Given the way our brain is designed to work, expectations aren’t easy to shake. Expecting the unexpected helps shift the blinkers to notice more than what you first thought.

11. See Reality

On the other end of Listening and not hearing anything is hearing what you don’t want to hear. Continuing to search for answers and hearing the same thing is a pretty strong indication you will end up right back where you are. Not liking what you hear or not feeling ready doesn’t change the fact you Listened. Pushing away what you know continues the struggle without changing the inevitable. What you are dealing with shifts from trying to Listen to accepting what you hear.

12. Get Out of Your Head

As your Listening skills expand you’ll hear with more than just your ears. Not only will your heart and stomach give you signals, you’ll begin developing a personal inner GPS of meanings from other reactions in your body. Tingles, contractions, muscle cramps are all messages to grab your attention in different ways as will your clair-senses. Your signals and meanings are yours to map out. Another person’s signal won’t necessarily hold the same meaning for you.

13. Accept Not Knowing

The only way to reach beyond imagination is to not know. Struggling to know blocks Listening. In attempting to get somewhere you end up getting in your own way. Being comfortable with not knowing allows you to relax and pay attention while things unfold. Instead of trying to make things happen, you begin watching for what appears.

14. Pay Attention

Being the observer allows you to shift more easily into full Listening mode by separating yourself from the situation. You’re not concerned controlling the outcome and needing to find reasons or make sense. The objective is simply to see what appears and unfolds from various directions. Insights and patterns are given the space to emerge and pieces fit together without having to act.

15. Believe In Yourself

The best, most important and at times the most difficult is saved for the last. Without a belief and trust in yourself that you will hear what you’re looking for, you won’t. Doubt is a normal part of the process, especially during growth. Because you don’t know now doesn’t mean you never will. Trusting you’ll have the answers you seek – when the time is right – is key to easing up and Listening with greater clarity.


You’ve probably noticed many of these points overlap with others and the keys to unlocking change.

When you pick one you’ll naturally tap into a few others as well.


You’re likely to find not every tip works well for you either or in every situation.


That means you’re well on your way to knowing yourself better and developing your own list of tools to draw upon.

Listening is a process and is always developing as you grow too.


What tools do you have for Listening more clearly?

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Lorraine Watson - on rustic porch

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Crazy for cats and potatoes, Lorraine's insatiable curiosity of Life leads her to question, explore and push beyond the box. A self-professed "left-brained creative big picture" type, she has an intuitive knack for seeing beyond and beneath first appearances while at the same time nerding out on the details. Most of all she sees and holds others in their highest until they can see it for themselves.


  1. Naomi Goodlet on June 1, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    Great tips! I love number 8!! haha

  2. Sandra Vandenhoff on June 2, 2014 at 6:05 pm

    I love these practical tips about something that does not lend itself to practicality! I will definitely print this one! Thank you.

  3. Shan on June 2, 2014 at 9:09 pm

    So many of these resonate with me, Lorraine. I think that’s one of the reasons I love knitting so much. It allows me to be “busy” while my mind wanders. For me, accepting not knowing is probably the most difficult of the things in your list. It’s something I struggle with constantly. Can you spell “wannabe control freak”? 🙂

    • Lorraine on June 9, 2014 at 7:20 pm

      Maybe I should learn how to knit for the winter when driving is not so good. Not knowing does take a bit practice to see the bright side. Being curious to see what appears with a bag of popcorn and pop in hand helps shift out of having to know.

  4. Caroline Kirk on June 3, 2014 at 12:35 pm

    Love this Lorraine, very timely as I embark on upping the ante in my intuition process.. its been wonderful and i will bookmark this to come back to when the blocks emerge again.. love 8, 9 and especially 15, its what prevented me from trusting what i was intuitively thinking for way too long 🙂 Thanks so much <2

    • Lorraine on June 9, 2014 at 7:24 pm

      Listening and trusting are truly both an evolving process. Dropping breadcrumbs here and there to help remember and find our way forward again is a great idea. When you forget to believe in yourself, know that I always do.

  5. Suzie Cheel on June 7, 2014 at 9:10 pm

    Love do the hokey pokey, what a novel idea. As i listening more I am finding I have so much more clarity and inner peace

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