As a recovering perfectionist and a wannabe hermit at times, a post in a Facebook group caught my eye.
The topic – perfectionism is the nemesis of visibility.
The person posting shared putting their best effort into their work also held them back.
Nuancing every last detail can feel satisfying, but it keeps you from putting your work into the world.
From connecting and making progress.
From being visible.
Not hard to guess this post wasn’t going to scroll quietly by without obserflection.
The thing about being a recovering perfectionist is you always have to pay attention.
You have to be aware enough to catch yourself slipping into old patterns.
Which means knowing the patterns to begin with.
The first point of relief was realizing I am and will never be a full time perfectionist.
There are clearly areas of my life where barely good enough was excelling.
Economics 101 comes to mind.
Vacuuming underneath the couch is another.
Best efforts are better spent elsewhere.
Perfection starts to kick in where I will see the results.
Or know someone might see my work somewhere down the road.
Like building a wall, drywalling or removing wallpaper.
Doing a job well is important, right?
There’s a sense of pride. Craftsmanship.
And then you see tiles in Mexico to remind you otherwise.
Then thoughts turned to business …
where I must be visible.
Aaackkk! Perfection runs rampant!
Wait a second, though.
Perfection doesn’t always take control.
On the surface perfectionism looks like a stalling tactic.
But I don’t always stall.
Sometimes being launched into imperfection is fun.
Like with live streaming.
Yammering on for days is easy.
If a blip happens then I’ll handle it.
Ahhh, there’s the key.
The more depth and confidence I have in an area, the more I throw caution to the wind.
Experiment, test and tweak is the way to go.
Making mistakes is part of the process.
But where I’m new at something, or unclear about a decision that needs to be made …
Perfection drives the bus at break neck speed.
Time to research, analyze and find that elusive one last detail that will make everything click.
Analysis paralysis quickly follows from information overwhelm.
Yeah! Another perfectly good reason not to move forward.
Ahem, stay invisible.
The silly thing is, trying new things and being more visible grows confidence and capabilities.
Much easier to say than do, though.
Not always easy to convince yourself failing is succeeding.
There’s a leap of faith – or twelve needed to keep going until you start to see some changes happening.
That opens the door to relax a bit and shift mindsets.
I’m onto you perfection.
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chief nudging officer
Crazy for cats and potatoes, Lorraine's insatiable curiosity of Life leads her to question, explore and push beyond the box. A self-professed "left-brained creative big picture" type, she has an intuitive knack for seeing beyond and beneath first appearances while at the same time nerding out on the details. Most of all she sees and holds others in their highest until they can see it for themselves.